Friday, November 12, 2010

Life is Relationships : How and Why?

"Many of our life problems (health, marriage, problems of materialistic nature, business, problems with children, and diseases from dependence) have connections with a family in which we live, with a family in which we grew up as well as family from which our parents derived.

We receive from our ancestors not only the color of our hair or tendency toward epilepsy, or heart diseases, but also a variety of psychological stresses, traumas and pains among which many are on the level of secrecy. Since long ago people have experienced one feeling, which they transformed into saying ". When grandparents eat sour grapes the grandchildren's teeth turn numb

Person suffering chronic illness, often comes from a family where there are many "unfinished businesses" in the past.

Fore example: Family who's members has serious emotional problems, serious conflicts within members going on, or just a lot of feeling of guilt, fear and resentment. Sometimes, those conflicts and entangling are on unconscious level, and person is not aware of it. If those conflicts and problems are not addressed, health, if achieved, is just an illusion, short term experience.

MOST SERIOUS HEALTH PROBLEMS come from difficult relationship between people.

But, for most people, dealing with those problems is not easy. Being married with a "wrong" person, being divorced, being unable to communicate with your kids ... finding solution to similar problems seems very difficult for many people! It takes a long time to learn, to adjust, to forgive, and to tolerate.

Unfortunately, people who need changes the most, those who are seriously ill, are just too ill to realize it. Most sick people are just too sick to even try simple and easy things like water cure, liver cleanse, juicing, lemonade diet....

Family and Subconscious plays a big part in our health. When we are talking about subconscious, we are talking about past.

"Beside the color of our eyes or tendency toward epilepsy, from our ancestors we inherit various kinds of feelings, tragedies, traumas, tempers, tresses, misfortunes. We also inherit the terror and fear of living in poverty, hunger, insecurity, etc (nevertheless of our temporary status)."

"Families have numerous levels on which they exist and on which they function in the same way as each of us individually. There is a difference between the visible (so called manifesting) level of family's relationship and the level of hidden feelings, games and positions (so called latent level). The pathological balance frequently exists on exactly this hidden level, which, after long-term stagnation of energy, creates sickness or pathological process to that family or to their members."

"Today we are aware of the fact that any serious emotional trauma that happened in the past to you (or your parents) can have a significant effect on the continual state of your health.

People can also strongly suffer from emotional trauma inherited from parents who lived with hidden and unsolved rejection, with concentration camp or refugee drama or ancient separation during birth.

All this pervades the descendents and brings them in an emotional state, which they don't remember experiencing at all. We can frequently see how, in families, children reflect their parents, as if they are looking in the mirror. The characteristics that they have taken from their parents or some distant ancestor may include the tendency toward depression, fear, self-criticism, lack of conscience, self-rejection, etc. It is therefore very clear that the emotional trauma is the main reason for bad health."

"Unfinished businesses within family can block and take away the family energy. These can be various family secrets about family's conflicts, murders, war sufferings, rapes, religious intolerances, adultery, frauds, plunders, betrays, etc."

Solution:

"By finishing the unfinished business a lot of life energy can be released."

"Secrets and lies within a family are very important, because secrets, hidden thoughts and feelings are those that produce the unfinished business and knots. Very often almost whole family energy is spent to keep some secret on the safe place, so the members of the family hardly have strength for anything else in their life."

Soul is a part of us, which connects our body (material aspect of our existence) and our spirit (our connection with spiritual). Soul is a part of us that is connected to emotions and in this way it knows all truths from the beginning to the end. It is not like mind which analyses, interprets, judges, synthesizes and babbles, babbles, babbles, etc It's medium is not a word but a picture.

A lot of things that determine our lives, happiness and health belong to those latent levels and it processes beyond the level of our consciousness. Not only does there exist a large subconscious part of us connected to our individual lives from the beginning until present moment, but also there exist a large part in that subconscious that is filled with various important elements from the whole evolution, from prehistoric human until today. As in some unimaginably big computer, tidily in our subconscious we have sorted files that possess all the emotionally important information from the prehistoric days until today.

This is known as collective subconscious.

Beside individual and collective subconscious, in subconscious part of us there exist one more "sector" in which are placed files that possess something that is called familiar subconscious. This is something that we inherit from our ancestors through our genetics. These are furthermore those "programs" in our lives that are often, automatically and unconsciously happening and determining our destiny. Therefore we, beside the color of our eyes or tendency toward epilepsy, inherit various kinds of feelings, tragedies, traumas, tempers, stresses, also the pain of midwife whose children are dying while giving them birth, the misfortune of their mother to whom they forbid to marry the love of her life, we also inherit the terror and fear of living in poverty (nevertheless of our temporary status).

"That is why we often notice within family, for example, five generations of lawyers or seven generations of doctors or four generations of alcoholics, suicides, schizophrenics, divorces, etc."

"If the children are the ones whose problems are involved, then the adequate people should work for them in the therapy as their parents or very close relatives."

It is important to learn what is right and what is wrong, in relationship with people. It is important to regret doing things that are bad. It is important to forgive to those who regretted. It is important to forgive to yourself. It is important to learn from mistakes. It is important to love your parents, your ex partners, your present and your past partners, your children, born and unborn, alive or dead.

It is important to do good to people. It is important to do good to your own children. It is important to support your children. The best that a parent can do for their own children is to love the other half, the other parent. How do you show love to your children? By showing them that you love the other parent! Lack of this love may cause imbalances that will be felt through generations.

----- Oneness